"Choosing trust over doubt gets me burned once in a while, but I'd rather be singed than hardened." -Victoria Monfort

Monday, June 07, 2010

The Dating Pond...Part One...

In the pond of life, there has to be lots of frogs. If frogs could talk that is.

I have been talking to a couple of guys online. One in particular. We talked three hours, then a few times the next day, and another three hours, and he asked me over to dinner. He has a kid, and I sent the address to 3 people and asked them to check on me several times, so I didn't wind up chopped up in a trunk somewhere.

We really got along on the phone, great conversation, the pictures he had posted, were attractive to me. We had a lot in common, and it even turned to flirting. He really thought I was marriage material, everything anyone would want, who would let a catch like me go? (I cant argue that) So we met.

I wasn't that nervous because of all the talking, I felt comfortable. But when he opened the door, I instantly felt disappointment....

He looked nothing like his pictures. He looked like 40 something, and I look 20 something. (so ive been told....)

As if the looks part wasn't the only disappointment, over dinner he told me how he had been abused as a child. He doesn't associate with his family. He use to be an STNA at one point, and witnessed a patient being abused, and he "took care of the guy who did it". I asked him to elaborate and by that he meant he took him outside and beat him up and lost his job.

I looked at him in horror, and he said "am I scaring you?" "Yes" I said.

To be continued...


Rachel said...

UGH. :( What a creeper!

Sister Copinherhair said...

Oh, dear God, Mon. Thank goodness that all came out on the first date.

Teena in Toronto said...

I would have met him at a neutral place like a restaurant. He sounds wacko.

Mr Yes said...

Just a hint. A guy should be nearly as nervous or uncomfortable about letting you into his life as you should be about letting him into yours.

Everyone has a past, but the guy you deserve should have something worth making sure you deserve as well.

Neutral spaces!

Allison M. said...

I'm nervous to read part 2 of this.

Fizzgig said...

skeevy is a good word!

right...and he said he wanted to be honest, im sure it wouldnt bother plenty of people, and years ago id have overlooked it!

yea you live and learn

oh it wasnt bad lol. just a waste of time

mr yes:
this is great advice! i wouldnt have thought about it that way, and its another red flag to look for!