"Choosing trust over doubt gets me burned once in a while, but I'd rather be singed than hardened." -Victoria Monfort

Wednesday, July 08, 2009

Things I heard about 100 times this weekend....

And by things I mean thing said to me and or/me and the manfriend:

"when are you two getting married"

I simply answered that we aren't even living together. I tried to pretend like the manfriend didn't hear any of it too, but I can't be certain.

I was also hanging out with manfriends friends. This isn't even my own friends harassing me.

I try to let things just happen. And not think about them. I don't like when other people try to put their crap on you like........you've been dating almost 2 years and you dont live together? Have you thought about it?

It starts to make me feel panicked. It sounds nice, but it scares me as much as it probably scares him. I've been on my own for a loooooooooooooooooong loooooooooooooooooooooong (read 5 years) time. Plus two years prior to now on my own. I had some douch come in and out over that time, but I've been paying the bills on my own and/or supporting someone else.

It's ok for a girl to be scared too. I wish people would get them some bizness, and not try to make me feel bad because I'm living my life the way I want to.


Andhari said...

It's ok to be scared, it's a big deal. I got freaked out when people ask me that myself. You're ready when you're ready after all, right?:)

Anonymous said...

My man and I will be together for 4 years this August and there aren't any wedding bells ringing that I can hear. Fuck em' tell them to mind their own business. Things like that shouldn't be rushed.

Damsel Underdressed said...

I agree that there really shouldn't be any hurry to rush into things. If it is working for the two of you, then that is all that matters. When the time comes when it isn't working, then you'll know you need to take the next step.

I'm afraid of getting too comfortable being on my own. What if I get to the point where I like things the way they are and can't let someone else into my routine?

Fizzgig said...

i agree! its personal preference!

i dont like when people put their expectations on you. Its like when people have kids then expect you to!

i use to think that way too...but then i also thought id never let anyone love me again. i think when its right, it all fits. even into your routine, you make the room....its probably a good gague!

Teena in Toronto said...

I loved being single and living on my own.

Gord's away this week ... wheeeeee!

LBluca77 said...

The "when are you two getting married" question is the worst. But things should happen when they happen. Good things don't need to be rushed.

And there is nothing wrong with living your life the way you want. That is the key to happiness. Well at least I think it is.