"Choosing trust over doubt gets me burned once in a while, but I'd rather be singed than hardened." -Victoria Monfort

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Do Frogs Become Princes...?

My mom got me a frog prince once for xmas. I put him by the bed, and I'd kiss him, and think about the perfect guy. This was around the time I made out my check to the universe for 10 grand, and read "the secret". I was full of hope. Well, I still am that way. I'm an eternal optimist.

I met the perfect guy. And I had a perfect two years with him. I still think he was my frog prince dreamed into reality. Because I have had such a crappy time with men. Things with us clicked form the first email. The first phone call. The first text. Our first date...amazing. You don't find that every day. The instant spark and chemistry, disgusting love and affection, and being connected on so many levels.

When you are not use to such a thing, it can be scarey I imagine. There were times I thought it was too good to be true, but I squashed the thoughts with "I deserve to be happy".

Manfriend and I were apart for a month to the day. We didn't "talk" for 17 days. But after that the texting began. Then we had a 9 hour conversation. Then we met in person. Then we spent New Year's together. And the rest as they say...is history.

I've been back with him for 17 days now and I really have no qualms about it. I always pictured us together. I didn't talk him into coming back, he apologized to me out of the blue, and confessed what he did was stupid, and wrong, and he was a complete idiot. (and...?) If I didn't feel he was genuinely sorry, I wouldn't be wasting my time. He didn't have to tell me the truth, we were broken up already. And he wanted the opportunity to earn my trust.

He told me he is happy he realized what he lost when he did, rather than 11 years from now. (like my ex husband) Only the universe knows what will happen with us. But honestly the break up has done nothing but make our relationship better. We lacked verbal communication, so we talk on the phone. (we always texted!) We didn't see each other enough, so we have been spending 5 days in a row together. We held things back from each other, so we talk about them.

I can't express how much better things feel with us. I never thought they were bad, but I guess we didn't communicate very much at all. And it will bring us even closer together.

It is sad to say, but I really think we had to go through all of this to strengthen our relationship. We got back together thinking it couldn't be "the same" but it really is even better. And that, my friends, is the reason for my recent happiness.

Each day seems to be even better than the one before. We are both looking forward to our future together. Which we are sure will be very bright.


sazza said...

I knew it! I'm glad things have worked out, and that you are happy.

babylamb said...

Yeah! I'm so happy for you. I knew the two of you would work it out.

Teena in Toronto said...

I hope you find what you are looking for.

Andhari said...

I'm glad to read you're happy with your decisions :) I hope he always makes you happy :)

Cyclediva said...

I'm happy that you are working things out. I hope you both continue to learn about each other and grow in your relationship. You deserve it.

Fizzgig said...

thank you! i am very happy and things are even better than great!

thank you! I knew there was a reason i didnt hate him...

i think i did!

well he better!!

thank you! I belive i do too!

heather said...

that's great! sometimes it does take losing (or even almost losing) the person you love to realize how much you love them. my hubby and i went through a terrible time a few years ago and we worked through it and are so much happier and closer now than ever.