"Choosing trust over doubt gets me burned once in a while, but I'd rather be singed than hardened." -Victoria Monfort

Tuesday, January 08, 2013

Dating... Advice?

Dating. Not my top priority these days, but it's still in the back of my mind.

I don't feel like I'm missing out, I mean, I havn't been on a real date (with someone I havn't already dated before....ahem...) in a long while.

I've said a billion times I'm at the point where if you don't knock my socks off, keep it moving. I'm living my life just fine, thank you!

Being only one of two single girls in my social circle, I get a lot of advice as to why I'm "still single". (like it's the plague)

Here are just a few samplings of unsolicited advice I've gotten...

Apparently, I can't go shopping without getting done up. I never know where I will meet someone. So I guess it's unacceptable to go to the store after the gym. I should rush home, shower, spend an hour on make up and hair, (after already doing so for work in the morning) and THEN go get my wine...I mean, food, or kitty litter, or...whatever.

Aren't there any guys at your gym? I should frequent the weight room, ask a guy to help me.

Do you always wear that ring? Apparently, guys are dumb, it doesn't matter if I wear my beautiful antique inspired, self-bought diamond ring on my right hand, they probably still think I'm engaged.

I  need to hang out at Barnes and Noble, there are ALWAYS guys there.

I need to order food at a restaurant by myself and sit at the bar. Someone will pick me up.

I need to flirt more.

I should strike up a conversation with someone I think is cute! I need to practice!

I shouldn't meet someone online!

I should meet someone online!

I need to stop hanging out at the gay bar, how will I ever find a man that way?

I need to get out more often.

I should join a social group. (what is a social group?)

Buy this dress for a date!!! (that I don't have) It will inspire me to be more open to dating because I already have an outfit.

I can't expect a guy to always make the first move I need to go for what I want!

I should be more outgoing, guys love confident girls!

I should meet a rich guy, he will take care of me!

What ridiculous advice have you gotten? Or am I the only single girl left in the world?


Teena in Toronto said...

Sounds like a lot of work!

How about be open to chat with anyone? Even in line at the grocery store?

White Space said...

I get all sorts of things. It's an offence in the UK to be single or not hunting for a man at every available opportunity. There must be something wrong if we're not in a couple and people feel dreadfully sorry for us (I feel sorry for them in their less-than-happy relationships personally)

Everyone has an opinion as well and doesn't see for a minute that their unsolicited 'advice' is rude and presumptious. "don't worry, you'll find someone soon", "I believe the right person is out there", are comments I get even though I'm happier than I ever was in a relationship. The pitying looks are the worst though!

Different subject, it looks like I might be getting a darling rescue terrier/bichon mix! I thought of you cos we've discussed rescue dogs before. I wrote a blog post about it & you can see his photos if you like. I'm going to meet him on Saturday.