Tuesday, November 05, 2013
I'm OK, You're Ok...
A post by a fellow blogger, got my wheels turning. I love to read inspirational posts, especially when I can so closely relate! Check out Urban Cynic!
I've been single forever. Like, years forever. I've dated here and there, but nothing special. If I put too much thought into being single, it can be terrifying.
I take each day as it comes, and I am happy. Sincerely...happy on my own!
I spent the majority of my adult and teen life in relationships. My longest "single" stretch before now was 7 months. And that seemed like a lifetime at 25!
I was a relationship hopper, for sure! Being alone? Gasp!!!
Relationships are comfortable when you are use to being in one, and unless you pass through the uncomfortable part, you will never get to the good parts!
Relationships also require sacrifice. The longer you are on your own, and learn to embrace a single life, the easier it is to realize the things you are willing to sacrifice.
Being single, forces you to really understand who you are. Not just because you have all sorts of time to reflect on what was right, or wrong in said relationships..but more importantly, because you realize the things that truly make you "you".
The longer you are single, the more you are forced to face the idea that yes...maybe you will be alone forever. And so what? As long as you embrace the idea, you might as well start finding things to fill up your life. Plan for your future. Decide what makes you tick!
Once you give in to the idea, and start to appreciate your single life, it seems less like a "curse" and more like a "blessing".
Knowing how I prefer to live my life on my own, makes it easier to decide how another person will compliment my life, rather than "make my life".
I've never given myself the time to learn these things. In the past I thought I had it all figured out, but now I know who I am "on my own".
And even though, years back, I'd have rather been in a relationship than be single, as always, the universe gives us what we need, and not what we want.
I wouldn't trade these past few years of being single for anything. Something that seemed so scarey, turned out to be a blessing!
I have accomplished so much, because I was forced to. I had nothing else to focus on besides me, and that has been the best blessing in disguise I've ever had!